Your Fears Can be a Clue!
It took me years to know myself, and I am still working on it. I think it was the lack of self-confidence that stood in my way. I wanted to be what I thought people wanted me to be. One of the tricks that helped me understand was realizing that it is okay to be scared and to dare to do something you thought impossible. I had to push myself even if I was frightened.
We all have fears, and that is good. The fear instinct will stop us from going down a dark alley where people are hanging out drinking something from a bottle in a bag, fear of getting burned will make us pull our hand off a hot pan or for me, the fear of heights will stop me from jumping off the high dive at a swimming pool.
One of my deep-down fears is any object falling from a high place. While pondering why this is such a "horrible" fear for me, I concluded it must be insecurity that is the root of the fear. Looking back on my life, I realized life is constantly changing; that certain people, events, etc., will be gone forever as we go through life, which is okay. It does not mean life will stop; I will continue. Therefore, it is up to me to find the positive side of any situation. I need to remember the joy, possibly the pain, from what has now vanished.
To embrace conquering my fear of heights, I arranged a pretty daring adventure for one of my milestone birthdays; a Hot Air Ballon over the Masai Mara in Kenya. It was so beautiful, and as we got higher, I was a bit nervous, but the joy of seeing the world from a gliding balloon was an AMAZING experience!! I did have to ask my husband to please not hold the camera over the side of the balloon, LOL.
I hope you take time to ask yourself what your fears are and why?
Then take the next step to overcome it by appreciating the opposite side of the fear. For me, it was the fear of losing something, but in the end, I realized life is full of failures and losses; however, another door opens with even better and brighter opportunities.
Get to know yourself!